I GOT CATFISHED BY MY SUGAR DAD

My junior year of college I was away from home, and at this point had isolated myself from campus entirely. It had become known that I was a dancer, and many girls secretly hated me due to the attention their boyfriends would give me, and the fact they the girls wanted to dance too, but didn’t have the balls to do it. I didn’t care about the rumours. I didn’t care what anyone said. In my world I was paid , and doing what I want. Due to me not being as involved or social on campus, I would watch movies and scope Seeking Arrangements for new potential arrangements and sugar dads.sometimes successful sometimes not. My most weirdest encounter ever was with John and Jennifer.

When viewing John’s premium profile on Seeking Arrangements I found it odd that he did not have any pictures of himself. However, he did have a lot of pictures of many different women. All of the women pictured in his portfolio were white. This is why i found it odd when he favorited me and began to message me.

His first email to me was super long.. He told me about his career in photography. How he is too old to have sex any more, and he spoke very highly of his personal assistant Jennifer. He wrote me a beautifully put poem about his love for black woman, and how he would like to photograph me nude. He went on to ask me what my expenses are, and how he could help. He told me to send over my banking info and he would make a deposit if I was interested.

I responded back and told him about myself and my needs. I told him I would love to be photographed , and we should set up a time and place. I responded to his sexual statements accordingly ,and sent him a few sexy pics as a response.

After this I got creeped out because Jennifer began emailing me talking about how pretty I am, how he loves chocolate girls, and how she could teach me how to get money from him. She told me what to say and basically told me what he said about me. I responded to her thanking her with the info. At this point ,I now had two ongoing conversations with John and his assistant. I sent over my bank account information, and in the morning I awoke to $100 in my account. I couldn’t believe it, The conversations then became frequent.However, I was tired of sexting over emails, sending naughty pics, and them promising visits and photoshoots paying me a lot of money, but the would never answer, and would always text from a weird number.. However, I didn’t care because I kept waking up to deposits, and the conversations were actually funny because it was like some weird cat and mouse game between the three of us. I didn’t trust meeting them offline because soon the messages started becoming heavy sexual graphic nature, and Jennifer’s correspondence had turned bitter towards me, and ill mannered. I was extremely uncomfortable and started demanding more money because now it was becoming too much and getting too weird. Irritated and upset one day I began to make threats about whether they were real. Saying that they were the same person. He lied about the $1200 dollar photoshoot and art gallery he said he would put me in ,and more. He was reluctant, but eventually agreed.

Seeing now that I’m expecting a large amount of money, I keep in touch with them more, and start agreeing to everything they say. I would send more pictures, and I dealt with the first couple excuses of why I still haven’t gotten paid yet. Tired of waiting and since Jennifer was now becoming snappy and irritable, I emailed her demanding to tell me what to do to get the money. She then flipped the script on me and said that all I care about is money. In my head I was like “Duh,” but i responded saying I really loved John and maybe we could all be together. She then got back on track to telling me how to work john . She told me information about him that she told me not to say that I got from her. I eventually got a portion of the money, but not all. The vibe and trust was off, weird, and then the messages from Jennifer were getting hostile. Jennifer was back to her jealous streak. While checking Seeking arrangements I say that they also had a Model Mayhem page which is where photographers book aspiring models. I check their page there and shoot thema message. We then try to meet again , so that way we could finally get the photoshoot done. They called me and the voice on the phone sounded so creepy, and keep in mind I still have only seen two generic pictures of a man and a woman.I surely did not trust meeting them after the phone call and wanted answers. I called them out on everything that I saw fishy about this whole arrangement. Googled some information that seemed to add up, but still some did not add up.

I expressed to Jennifer about how I thought she was lying and that they were not real people. She became infuriated and then we had an insulting conversation back and forth. Mad I told John what Jennifer said about him. John was saddened and hurt, and said that he had fired Jennifer due to her telling information, posing as john in emails, and of course having access and smuggling funds. At this point I was confused and wanted to end this before it got too out of hand. I didn’t want to take myself out of safety, and Jennifer already responded with an email calling me a little bitch and saying that I ruined her life, and she would do the same to me,

John’s final email said that the photoshoot all was possible , but he is no longer deciding to move forward with the project he was paying me $1200 for. He told me Jennifer betrayed him and he will chose to retire due to his old age. I responded with a thank you for everything and blocked Jennifer.

Confused about how this all played out I wondered was John real ? Was Jennifer real? They gave me a lot of money in that month . I never saw them in person and they were adamant about meeting me, but couldn’t provide proper verification on information concerning looks. Location, websites, and more. The only thing they seemed to do was want to talk dirty and make deposits through this specific bank they asked me to go get. Glad that this crazy internet mind game had came to an end that I benefited from I withdrew the money from the account and closed the account. However, would they still be able to find me on campus? They had my first and last name. They also knew what school I went to. Were they really two different people? Did I miss my biggest debut as a model? Who was the man on the phone? Why did their numbers not work? Where was this money coming from? Why this break.

I got so caught up in hitting a lick I didn’t think about how I put myself in dangers way.With the information I provided and not knowing where the money came from I could have been harmed. When dealing with awkward online communication it is important to not try to scam the other person, and to be cautious of scams. Your safety matters. Don’t be greedy!